Catherine was working on her math today. She choose to sit in the living room and this meant she was chatting me or her brother up every chance she got. I was getting angry and finally sent her off to my bedroom.
I realized afterwards that I have this vision in my head of how I expect Catherine to do her work. I expect her to work fairly efficiently. I expect her not to engage anyone except if help is needed. I expect her not to be doodling when she should be adding negative and positive integers.
Two problems:
1) All I did in school was doodle and doddle.
2) I've never actually shared my expectations with her in any reasonable or constructive way.
I think we'll have a talk tommorrow. I'll mention what I'd like to see, whether my expectations are reasonable to her, share some stories about myself when I was a kid and ask her for any ideas she has about how to get her work done with fewer distractions.
1 comment:
Oh this is very interesting. I find that I often am not even aware of my expectations until the kids violate them in some way. The process of getting conscious is long and varied.
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